Angelica Panganiban has opened up about her views on the oft-argued-about "career vs. love" dilemma.
On the third episode of “Ask Angelica” which aired on October 9, Mamee Angge and her co-hosts Kean Cipriano and Via Antonio welcomed Glaiza de Castro on the show to talk about finding love outside of your own culture, and how to deal with it.
As per Angge, her amiga Glaiza was the best person to give advice on the matter because she is currently in a relationship with Irishman, David Rainey.
Glaiza opened up about being in a long-distance relationship.
She said, “Nandoon na siya sa Ireland. [Pero] during the start of quarantine nandito siya, so masayang-masaya ako. Naging masaya kasi mas nakilala niya ‘yung nanay at tatay ko. Before, hindi ko alam kung saan ko itatago si David, kasi first time ko magka-jowa na hindi Pilipino. Hindi ko in-expect.”
One advice-seeker asked the group, “How important it is that your significant other learns your language and culture?”
Based on her own experience, Glaiza answered, “Importante. Ang totoo niyan, kailangan parehas kayo. Ang nangyari [kasi sa akin], si David, naisip niya na since nandito siya for a long time at plano niyang bumalik ulit, nag-adjust siya.”
Near? Far? Wherever you are. Another netizen sent in a video and asked, “Who will you choose, a Pinoy who is here with you physically or someone who’s thousands of miles away but makes you happy?”
Mamee Angge said, “‘Yung comfort kasi na magkasama kayo, pwede mong mapagsawaan ‘yan eh, pero ‘yung goodness ng soul, na kahit malayo siya napapasaya ka niya, what more ‘pag magkasama kayo.”
Another caller asked about a problem common to Filipinos who live abroad — how do you make your foreigner partner understand that you still have to support your family in the Philippines?
Angge wanted to think long-term about this issue. She said, “Minsan din kasi ‘yung mga kapamilya natin, nasanay sila doon sa nakasanayan. So, mahirap ‘yun i-break kaya maganda rin na may balance. Siguro ngayon, habang wala ka pang pamilya, okay. ‘Pero pag nagka-pamilya ka, bigyan natin ng kabuhayan showcase para tuloy-tuloy ‘yung income nila. Para at least you’re trying. Long-term naman ‘yung gusto kong tingnan dun.”
A young lady asked how exactly do you win a foreigner’s heart?
“Make or break lang talaga siya. Hindi naman ‘to dapat ‘yung target-in mo talaga eh AFAM,” Angge said.
Glaiza added, “Bago mo i-win ‘yung puso ng AFAM, i-win mo muna ‘yung puso mo. Kasi ‘yun din ‘yung magli-lead sa relationship na gusto mo eh. ‘Pag kakilala mo na sarili mo, everything will follow eh, hindi mo na kailangan mag-try hard.”
When it comes to having foreigner lovers, another common issue is: Where do you settle down, eventually? Should you be willing to leave your life in the Philippines? Who should adjust?
Glaiza, once again, drew from her relationship with David. She said, “Noong sinabi niya sakin ‘yan, parang sa ngayon, hindi ko alam kung magbabago ‘to, [pero ngayon] parang hindi ko kaya. Hindi ko kayang iwan ‘yung buhay ko dito. Pero ang maganda, sabi kasi ni David, mas gusto niya dito.”
The group then turned the question to Angge and asked if she would be willing to leave everything behind for love. With no hesitation, Angge answered, “Oo.”
The group followed up with, “Kahit 'yung career nandito?”
“Yes. I don’t care, kung ano man ‘yung status ng career ko,” Angge replied. “Kasi nagtrabaho na ako for 28 years sa ABS-CBN. So feeling ko ‘pag dumating siya, hindi naman na siguro ako nagdadamot, maiintindihan naman ako ng kumpanya. I’ve been longing na magkaroon ng sarili kong pamilya, so ‘pag nangyari siya, give up lahat. Automatically ida-drop ko lahat.”
She added, “Alam ko ‘pag nagka-pamilya ako, pack-up, sorry.”
There is also a harmful stereotype that when Filipinos get into a relationship with a foreigner, it's because they are either after the money or good genes. Glaiza believes that even though the stereotype exists, what matters is your own reality.
She said, “Hindi mo maco-control ‘yung sasabihin ng ibang tao eh. Kung ano ‘yung sasabihin nila, sabihin na nila. Basta alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi mo naman pinasukan ‘yung relasyon na ‘to dahil lang sa gusto mong umangat ang buhay mo.”
By the end of the episode, Mamee Angge shared something that we should always remember — love is love.
“Isang mundo lang ang pinanggalingan nating lahat, isang love lang din ang pwede nating i-share. Kapag meron kang passionate love sa isang tao, hindi magma-matter kung ano ‘yung kultura niyo, ano ‘yung pinanggalingan niyo, ano ‘yung kulay niyo, ano ‘yung gender niyo. It’s very universal,” she said.
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