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THOUGHT PICKS: What to do when the dream job isn't so much of a dream anymore?

Para sa mga nabu-burnout diyan, para sa inyo ito, straight from the Movie Queen herself.

Cheska Espina
Cheska Espina

5/22/2018 in News
THOUGHT PICKS: What to do when the dream job isn't so much of a dream anymore?

Before entering college, you've probably seen yourself applying for your dream job. Maybe, that's one of the reasons why you chose that "course" in the first place.

Come graduation day, the black toga, the "welcome to the real world," "officially unemployed" season, the time when all your hardwork has paid off -- everything feels surreal.

The next day, you see yourself taking chances in your "dream job" and voila! Answered prayer! YOU'RE HIRED!

Of course, this "dream job" requires patience, hardwork, and passion. Obviously, that's easy for you to give because again, IT'S YOUR DREAM. 

Everything was going as planned until one day, you realized that you're not happy. Suddenly, every working day feels like a burden. Your stress has reached the maximum and you feel like can't keep up anymore. You feel like the work you've been doing for years is taking its toll on you.

This "burnout" feeling is getting worse and you see yourself torn between two choices: it's either you leave the job or continue the misery and hope for the passion in your heart to ignite again.

My friend, you are not alone.

Movie Queen Bea Alonzo has experienced the same feeling not just once, not just twice, but thrice.

"Alam mo lahat tayo dumadaan dyan. Ako kasi dalawang beses, tatlong beses ko na yata napagdaanan 'yan sa buong career ko. As in seryosong tumitingin na ako ng ibang properties sa ibang bansa, doon na ako titira sa Canada," Bea shared in her recent "Paano Ba 'To?" guesting on Bianca Gonzalez's popular YouTube vlog.

"Magdadasal ka" is the first advice this beautiful actress has for someone who's on the brink of quitting their job.

"Ako kasi mahilig ako humingi ng signs sa lahat ng desisyon ko sa buhay ko. Siguro very spiritual din kasi ako na tao. Gusto ko kung ano talaga 'yung calling ko. Gusto ko kung ano talaga 'yung gusto ni Lord na ipagawa sa'kin, 'yun talaga 'yung gagawin ko.

"Parang nabibigyan ako lagi ng project that renews my love for this business. Unang-una 'yung 'One More Chance.' Nagkaroon ako ng ibang perspective sa acting at sa craft. Parang nagkaroon ng second wave ng love for this business na nawala kasi na-burnout ako. 

"Totoo 'yung sinabi niya na sa umpisa talagang grabe 'yung drive mo. Hindi mo napapansin 'yung pagod, minsan 'di ka na rin nakakakain. Sobrang high ka doon sa happiness na nagagawa mo na 'yung pangarap mo."

Second thing to do is "take a break." 

"Kahit na sandali lang and then reflect. Talagang i-figure out mo kung ito ba talaga 'yung gusto mong gawin kasi alam mo it's not fair for your employer na kinukuha ka niya, binabayaran ka niya, for a job na hindi mo ginagawa nang maayos. Ibig sabihin half-hearted mo lang ginagawa. 

"There are other people na pwedeng gumawa ng trabaho mo na very excited. At ikaw rin, it's not fair for you na ginagawa mo 'yung isang trabaho na hindi mo na mahal. 

"I always say this, you should love what you do and then money will follow, success will follow, but first dapat mahal mo 'yung ginagawa mo."

"Take a break" means "kahit staycation lang" if your workload won't allow you.

"Mag-Tagaytay ka lang, punta ka lang. Kailangan mo lang i-reasses yourself what you really want in life, what you want to do kasi para sa'kin 'yun 'yung recipe ng success eh. Kailangan mo mahalin 'yung ginagawa mo and make sure na 'yun talaga 'yung calling mo. Nagkakaroon ka ng kontribusyon sa mundo dahil nga sa ginagawa mo, dahil mahal mo 'yung ginagawa mo. 

"It is not about the money or fame. It's not about being successful o pagpunta ng mga school reunions na ikaw 'yung successful. It's about being happy with what you do and touching people's lives."

And it's true what she also said, that we all should strive to "live a balanced life." 

"Sometimes nakakalimutan natin 'yun eh. As simple as going to the gym kasi dati hindi ko 'yun binibigay sa sarili ko eh. Parte 'yun ng pagmamahal mo sa sarili mo. Taking care of yourself. 'Pag mahal mo 'yung sarili mo, mamahalin mo rin 'yung mga tao sa paligid mo, mamahalin mo 'yung trabaho mo, mamahalin mo 'yung buhay mo. 

"Napakaimportante 'yung pagmamahal mo sa sarili mo at pag-aalaga mo sa sarili mo, and also being grateful for what you have kasi minsan ako rin nagiging ungrateful ako, feeling ko sa'kin lang umiikot ang mundo, 'yung pagka meron akong problema lagi akong 'Bakit ganito sila? Bakit ganyan sila?'Nagiging nega ka."

The last advice Bea gave is something she learned from the iconic Queen of Philippine Movies Ms. Susan Roces.

"Kapag meron daw akong ganon (burnout feeling), kumuha daw ako ng papel at ballpen tapos isulat ko lahat ng kinaiinis ko sa buhay ko. Lahat ng negative thoughts isulat ko tapos pilasin ko, itapon ko. 

"Tapos sa isang papel ulit isulat ko lahat ng mga bagay na I'm thankful for. Sabi niya bago pa daw matapos 'yung mga sinusulat mo, mawawala na 'yung sama ng loob mo. Totoo 'yan. Ginagawa ko 'yan. Magve-vent ka muna. Kailangan mo ilabas."

Bea topbills Star Cinema's 25th anniversary opener "Kasal" with Derek Ramsay and Paulo Avelino.

The film, directed by Ruel S. Bayani, is NOW SHOWING in 210 cinemas nationwide!

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